Do you feel like your emotions take over and you don’t know why?
For many people living with a personality disorder, including Borderline Personality Disorders, life can feel unpredictable — one moment calm, the next overwhelming. You may feel like your emotions, relationships, or thoughts are always at the edge of chaos. You might notice patterns of intense reactions, fear of abandonment, impulsivity, or inner emptiness that leave you feeling exhausted and misunderstood.
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You’re not alone. Living with a personality disorder doesn’t mean you’re “too much” — it means you’ve developed ways of coping that once helped you survive, but now make it hard to connect, trust, or feel stable.
You feel like your emotions are in control, not you.
When something happens, it can feel like a switch flips inside of you — anger, sadness, shame, or panic flood in so fast that it’s impossible to catch your breath. You may later wonder, “Why did I react that way?” or feel guilt and embarrassment about how things unfolded. Even small disagreements can feel threatening or rejection can feel unbearable. Over time, these emotional ups and downs can start to wear on your relationships and sense of self.
You keep hurting the people you love, even when you don’t mean to.
You might notice patterns in your relationships that leave you feeling disconnected and alone. Maybe you fear being left, so you cling tightly or you push people away before they can hurt you. Maybe you crave closeness but don’t know how to trust it. The people around you might not understand your reactions, and you might not understand them either. It’s painful to feel trapped in a cycle you can’t seem to stop.
You don’t know who you really are anymore. Maybe you never knew who you were.
Some days, you feel confident and sure of what you want. Other days, you question everything — your identity, your values, your relationships, even your sense of purpose. This instability can be confusing and scary, leaving you feeling like you’re constantly starting over or living life on emotional quicksand.
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We know it’s not easy to reach out for help. Therapy offers a safe space to untangle these patterns, understand yourself more deeply, and begin creating emotional stability that feels real and lasting.
How Therapy Works
When you begin therapy with us, we start by getting to know you — not just your symptoms or diagnosis. We take time to understand your story, your environment, and the experiences that have shaped you.
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We start with stabilization and understanding. We explore what’s happening in your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors and identify triggers that cause distress.
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We teach practical tools. You’ll learn skills for calming your body, communicating more effectively, and responding instead of reacting.
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We go deeper. Together, we explore patterns rooted in past experiences and help you create new ways of connecting and coping.
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We move toward healing and integration. The goal is not to “fix” you — it’s to help you build a life that feels more balanced, connected, and true to who you are.
Why Work With Us
At Purpose Counseling, we help individuals navigating personality disorders learn how to feel grounded, connected, and more in control of their lives.
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Our therapists use Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and trauma-informed care to help you understand your emotions, build coping skills, and make choices that align with who you want to be. We believe in giving back choice — helping you feel empowered to respond to life rather than react to it.
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We also integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) principles to help you understand the emotional needs driving your reactions and relationships. Together, we focus on building emotional safety, developing self-compassion, and learning practical tools for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and healthy connection.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. How long does therapy for personality disorders take?
Everyone’s healing timeline is different. Many clients start noticing shifts within the first few months, but deeper change often takes longer. We typically recommend committing to at least 12 sessions to build a foundation of coping skills before diving into deeper work.
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2. What if I’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t help?
That’s completely valid. Sometimes it’s not that therapy didn’t work — it’s that you didn’t yet have the right fit or approach. Our therapists work collaboratively with you, at your pace, using strategies that meet you where you are emotionally.
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3. Can therapy really help with personality disorders?
Yes. Research shows that therapy — especially DBT and trauma-informed approaches — can help reduce emotional distress, improve relationships, and increase stability. Change takes time, but with consistency and the right support, meaningful progress is possible.
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4. What if I feel too ashamed or afraid to start?
You don’t have to have it all figured out before starting therapy. Many clients come to us unsure, nervous, or scared. That’s okay. Our first goal is to create safety — a place where you can be honest about what you feel without fear of judgment.
We make it easy to get started.
Book a free consultation: We’ll answer your questions and help you find the right therapist for you.
Schedule directly through our online booking page — Choose a time that works best for your schedule.
Prefer to talk first? Give us a call or send a message. We’ll return your call within 24 business hours.